Breakup +
Breakup = BIG Breakup
Many time we see
people complain as: I lost love, no one loves me, love never happen to me.
Why this is
happening? Why people are suffering with lack of love? Many individuals say this:
(There are answers for every single question or for below points, read till the
end to understand the beauty of love)
1. I Broke up with my Girlfriend/Boyfriend
2. My spouse not love
as he/she was in the early days.
3. My parents not
loving me.
4. My children not
loving me.
5. My colleagues or
superior not loving me.
6. My surrounding not
loving me.
As many said: You
are the creator of your life, no one is possible to destroy or improve you.
Stand in front of
the mirror and see yourself and ask yourself what is in your mind and body? What
are you emitting? How you are feeling? How are your emotions right now?
Life/people react or respond to you, exactly
like mirror. Stand in front of the mirror:
If you laugh, it
laugh back.
If you love, it
loves back.
If you cry, it cries.
(Some exceptions)
If you feel joy, it
reflects back.
Let’s see above questions
one after the other:
1. I Broke up with my
Girlfriend/Boyfriend(GF/BF)
Many young, collage going individuals say the above things. “Broke
up/Hate” word indicates negativity, and “Join/Love” word indicates positivity.
When this happened to anyone they will be running with full
of negativity, full of hate, full of disappointment, so on. They also meet
other individuals with same status and mentality, to create another sad love story
in the influence of enmity.
Like Broke up girl meeting other broke up boy and they share
the misery each other, sometime they join and start loving.
When one starts loving other person just because he or she brock
up and hates someone. What it means? That individual have no love, they just do
revenge love affair, revenge show off, jealous love, love with enmity on other.
They started feeling that their new love is true love, which
will never become a true love: you know why?
When broken people join together, what they will be possibly
have: Hate, anxiety, jealous, disturbance, Numbness, anger, enmity, so on.
When two people with this mind set joins, it will be very BIG
range of Hate, anxiety, jealous, disturbance, Numbness, anger, enmity, so on.
Mathematics is
always true:
3 + 3 = 6
Assume one is having 6 above negative feeling and he/she join
other person with the same 6 negative feelings, it’s so obvious that; both will
make bigger damage than the earlier one. 6 + 6 = 12 sometime emotions may be
considered as multiplication (*) operator instead of addition (+), in those
case they may score: 6 * 6 = 36 hate and enmity.
1+1 never become zero
Broke up + Broke up = BIG Broke up never become LOVE.
Newton’s 3rd
law also justifies it:
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
When you broke up with someone you have hate, anger so on. So, it’s very clear
that opposite reaction is more similar to it.
Many collage individuals and youngsters sometimes choose their
BF/GF, just to satisfy their ego, just make other jealous, in those moments
they are not possible to take the right decisions, that ends with broke
ups and they started feeling sad, angry, some undergo depressions too.
Love is very beautiful thing that happens by its own, Love
never happen when you hate someone, when you broke up with someone. If you are
looking for the real love, wait till you have capacity to generate and produce a love in you.
How to test you have love in you? 2 way we can confirm it.
1. You must have
capacity to love yourself a lot.
2. You must feel normal
or even love, when you remember your old broke up BF/GF. (make sure there is no
emotional or breathing change happening in your body, when remembered your old
broke up GF/BF)
Anger/Hate/Jealous represents Fire, Love, Kindness, Inclusion
represents Flower.
Flower attracts bees, Fire destruct bees, you must be as a flower
to attract more bees.
“Fire kills life, Flower give life, have flower in your heart”
If someone loves other person just they hate someone means;
it just indicates that they are attempting suicide.
How anyone possible to give something which he/she doesn't
have. It's like expecting money from bankrupt person. It's like expecting
kidney/blood from the dead body.
Love failure guy and love failure gal join and both can create
bigger Love failure.
Unhappy and unhappy become multiple unhappiness.
Problem people mingle with other problem people, which will give
bigger problem. If you have problem, try connect with no problem/solution
people to get solutions to your problems. If you lost love, try mingle with
people who have love, to get Love from them.
2. My spouse not love
as he/she was in the early days.
Before marriage or
after marriage couple feel they are in the heaven and living in heaven, after
few day or months or years, slowly heavenliness turn to hell.
They don’t even look
into their spouse eyes, they don’t sit sometime feel the joy of togetherness, and
they don’t look each other’s face for few minutes.
Before marriage or
when newly married, they see eyes to eyes and face to face, they feel joy to sit
and talk some time together, that is the real love. In the real love one should
forget himself/herself.
All these things are
going out by the bond called marriage, marriage gives some permanent or ownership
feelings, love evaporates and take it for granted begins.
Remember every day
there are many cells die/born in the body, so much of physical, biological,
emotional changes happening, see your spouse as you are meeting her/him first
time. Then there is possibility to see that newness in him/her, there is a possibility
you explore and see that newness, feel that newness. If you predefined or owned
or concluded before you see/meet/touch, your curiosity of explore dies, you die
and your love dies.
3. My parents not
loving me.
How much love you
have on your parents, how many times you are disappointing your parents
with your behaviors and actions. What is your heart says right now, when you
remember your parents? If you want loving parents? Fill your heart with full of
love, try your best or the best way to act or behave that never hurts your
parents.
Truth is what you
have, you give, what you give, you get it.
4. My children not loving
me.
How much love you
have on your kids, how you were appreciating in the early days when raising
kids, why your heart is missing that love now, when they are in teen age or
adult? Why you expect your kids to be as slaves? Why you fear a lot? Why you
think so much about their future? How you shaped your future, why are you
losing trust on them. Like you they too find new ways to shape up the future.
You want your
children loves you back, have lesser expectations on them, stop guiding so much
to the adults, let them live with current trends, don’t take them back to your
60, 70, 80, 90 life style.
Don’t tell and
disturb children with your old outdated experiences, challenges, stories, problem. All
those things at your age, may not work well for the current generation. World
is changing so dynamically, based on the world dynamicity, allow your kids to adopt
and survive.
Don’t fight with
your young kid he/she is sleeping more, may be they get qualified for the sleeping job in future.
In your childhood
you never imagine that these are the jobs which can come; now we have
different job classes and technologies, allow your kids to follow the wind, go
with the wind.
Keep your heart full of love, your kids
will die for you and your love.
5. My colleagues or
superior not loving me.
In office many stupid mingle with other stupid’s, they always talk stupidity, negativity, they blame other intelligent fellows, they blame superiors, and finally they conclude that I can’t grow here, I can’t be intelligent here.
If you want growth
join or mingle with the growing or grown people, if you want intelligence
mingle with intelligent people groups.
Colleague or
superior not possible to love you until you have love on them or sharing love
with them.
More pathetic thing
in corporate we notice; all low rating folks, join together and they're
screw-up their rating furthermore, if you want good rating, good hike, try join
with the people who are getting it, soon or later you will get it, it's like
thread joins with flower goes to head, if thread joins with slippers/shoes goes
to feet.
Note: There are some
exceptions, no worries, love has great power it can create or destroy wars. Have
great love and great courage.
6. My surrounding not
loving me.
Jesus Christ Said: ‘Love
your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”
How much love you
show to them, how many times you hate them internally for their actions or
behaviors, if the same actions or behavior done by your family member or
relative you are ok?! Why don’t you consider or treat them as they are your
family members or relatives. If you are finding difficult to treat them as
yourself like Jesus said, treat them as your relative or family members.
Solutions to get love, peace, growth, and
happiness.
You can give what
you have. One must have something before he/she give. If you have 50 bucks you
are possible to give 10, 20 or 50 bucks, if you have nothing, you give nothing.
If you have love,
kindness, happiness, and peace, you are possible to give love, kindness,
happiness, and peace to others. To give one must have it, in the first place.
Look at the Swamiji,
Priests, Mulla's, why people going there, people need Peace, if Swamiji, Priests
and Mulla's disturbed and un-peaceful who will go to them.
Look at the enlightened people, why all are rushing towards them, they are in no stress, they are in no pressure, they are happy, they are peaceful. So it's obvious that if you go to the enlightened ones, you will be getting happiness and peace. It's obvious that if you listen to the enlightened you will be calm, cool and happy.
Just look at the kids, when you are in angry or disturbed, they don't even come closer to you, they know; what you have and what you can give it to them.
Look at the enlightened people, why all are rushing towards them, they are in no stress, they are in no pressure, they are happy, they are peaceful. So it's obvious that if you go to the enlightened ones, you will be getting happiness and peace. It's obvious that if you listen to the enlightened you will be calm, cool and happy.
Just look at the kids, when you are in angry or disturbed, they don't even come closer to you, they know; what you have and what you can give it to them.
What you have you
can give, what you give you get, this is universal law one who knows about
this, they invite less or no problems in their life.
If you are looking for Love, peace,
growth, and happiness look where you find abundance of it, join, mingle, and
learn with them.
There is a proverb
in Kannada: Kesarina jyothe muddadokinna, gandhada jothe guddadodu lesu
in English it means as: Fighting with Sandalwood is much better than, kissing the
dirt.
Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)
Kereya neeranu Kerege chelli
Author Disclaimer:
I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being.
