How to Win Trust

How to Win Trust

Today's biggest challenge and requirement is winning trust, both in personal and professional life.

Living in an environment where people don't trust you is almost equivalent to living in a hell.

If one earns trust at home or office, he/she is possible to live stress free life. Most of the people suffering with stress, failure, and problems is due to lack of trust too.

Winning Trust:

1. Trust is not a checklist. Fulfilling all your responsibilities does not create trust.

2. Trust is a feeling, not a rational experience.

3. We trust some people and companies even when things go wrong, and we don't trust others even though everything might have gone exactly as it should have.

4. A completed checklist does not guarantee trust.

5. Trust begins to emerge when we have a sense that other person or organization is driven by things other than their own self-gain.

6. With trust comes a sense of value—real value, not just value equated with money.

7. Value, by definition, is the transference of trust.

8. You can’t convince someone you have value, just as you can't convince someone to trust you.

9. You have to earn trust by communicating and demonstrating that you share the same values and belief.

Trust in Business/Professional life:

1. Leading, however means that others willingly to follow you—not because they have to, not because they are paid to, but because they want to. That's trust.

2. In turn, those who trust work hard because they feel like they are working for something bigger than themselves.

3. One culture is not better or worse than the other, they are just different. Understand this to trust them.

4. When you fill an organization with good fits, those who believe what you believe, success just happens.

5. In circus: the more he/she trusts the quality of the net, the more he/she will take personal risks to make his/her act better. The trust circus management provides him/her by providing a net is probably afforded to other performers too.

Soon all the performers will feel confident to try new things and push themselves further. Same applies to all the organizations.

6. Great organizations become great because the people inside the organization feel protected.

7. The strong sense of culture creates a sense of belonging and acts like a net.

8. Trust comes from being a part of a culture or organization with a common set of values and beliefs.

9. Trust is maintained when the values and beliefs are actively managed.

10. Never lie / Never misguide, honesty and truthfulness are main ingredient to create a trust.

12. If organization create trust in employees, will face least attrition rate. It's not how much they give, it's not how better they are, it's just how much trust they built.

Example: Lie is the root cause for all the distrust. If rain happens. What is the sign? Ground should be wet. You can't show dry soil/land and convince someone as heavy rains or water floods.

We are in technology world, you can erase your footprints, but not the digital footprints. And more over with social media and internet, we are all connected, being transparent is the only way or the right way to build trust.

If you learn to speak things which can be spoken with anyone or everyone, you will never come across a situation to hide your face. Be true to yourself. Be courageous, and learn to be clean both inside and outside, this is the best way to build and maintain trust.

Whom do you trust more?

• Someone you know or someone you don’t know?
• The waiter who tells you, "Everything on the menu is great?
• The waiter who tells you to avoid the chicken role? Whom you trust?
• Of course we trust the celebrity endorsement. A smile that encourages us to choose one car over another or one lipstick over another, because we trust those celebrities.

 Trust in life:

Many unpleasant and bad things happen in your life. You don't know how things are going to turn out. Don't make premature conclusions by listening to your mind. The more quite you are, the more you see things as they really are. When you see things as they are, your heart will be filled with gratitude and you will grow in wisdom. If those have not happened in your life, you are not what you are today.

Best story by Mooji, why we need have trust in life: Trust in Life and You will See

Real story of organization success:

Continental Airlines—the worst airline in the industry. In 1994, the year Bethune took over as the newest CEO (after ten CEOs in that decade), the company had lost $600 million and ranked last in every measurable performance category.

But all that didn't last long once Bethune arrived. The very next year Continental made $250 million and was soon ranked as one of the best companies to work for in America.

How Company turned: From Worst to Best?

• SAME RESOURCE
• SAME TOOLS
• SAME PEOPLE

Bethune created trust in the organization and he knows the techniques of HOW and How to win the trust and confidence in employees.

Ref Source: Book - Start with why by: Simon Sinek

Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)

• Kannada Blogger

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Author Disclaimer:

I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being.   

Power of LOVE

          Power of LOVE

When you are in full of love, you become totally lightweight. Power of gravity losses its capacity.

When you are making love with your partner, you both feel very lightweight. You jump and fly against the gravity, and that goes as easy as like a feather flying in air.

Ask people who play football or cricket, sometimes they fly in air in such a way that they themselves can't imagine it’s possible. It happened because of full involvement and love in the game they play.

When you are playing games you love and you are interested, you jump into the sky and you fly like a feather.

When you are in deep love and traveling, distance, duration, and feel is very short, light and joyful. Same distance, duration and feel becomes heavy, long and painful when you are not in love or lack of love.

Power of Love:

1. When you are in love with someone/something you eat less, still you don't feel hungry.

2. When you are doing work you love, you don't feel hungry and tired.

3. When you are in love with someone, you don't recognize how time is passing.

4. When you are doing something creative or loving your job, you don't recognize how time is passing.

5. When you are in love, most of the happenings in the world either go unnoticed by you or looks okay to you.

6. When you are in love, you become very courageous and you feel nothing is bigger than LOVE.

7. Love has no religion, no rules, no differentiation, it just happens.

8. Love happens by itself, it's impossible to make someone to love something or someone.

9. Love makes things beautiful, foods tasteful, and places peaceful.

10. Love is a language, it helps to connect hearts and nature.

11. Love is a source of courage, which can fight or withstand against the world.

12. Love is blind, it blinds the mind (blocks logical thinking and business thinking mind), and heart takes full in charge of it.

13. Love has no age, no time, no distance, it can happen in any age, at any time and with any distance, with anything or anyone.

14. Love is a dream and has capacity to make many dream to reality.

Being in love with someone, something and someway is the best way to keep yourself happy and healthy.

Most of the people are suffering because  of lack of love, so they don't like love, because they don't want someone to see with love, which they don't have.

Lack of love is a source of many psychological, physiological and criminal issues.

There are some proofs, that love even can extend the death. I have heard of it and many of you too might have heard as well, recently my close relatives grandfather expired. He had been hospitalized and doctors confirmed  that he can't live longer and  suggested for getting him discharged from hospital, but he was alive till his younger son came and saw/spoke to him, there are many real stories that have been proved, love has capacity to postpone the death.

Watch children play, they run, jump, dance and so on, they do this restlessly, they don’t know what is rest, even they forget to drink water and eat the food. But they don't get tired, they show great energy and their play is like feather movements under the fan/air blows. How this is possible? It's possible with love! They are in full of love with what they are doing. Whereas adults, they don't do anything, by sitting at one place or doing nothing they get tired and feel heavy, because they are with lack of love.

Love can make graveyard as a beautiful garden. If you are in lack of love, beautiful garden looks like a graveyard.

Jesus Christ and Satya Sai Baba realized the power of love, their work mainly focused on Love and nothing else.

If you are looking to enhance your will power and energy love, check where you are in the above table, if you are above the scale of 200 (Courage) your will power and energy levels are positive, most of the happenings in your life will be peaceful and joyful. If you are running any of the negative feelings like; shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, and pride, you will possibly experience more suffering and more troubles in life. To reduce negative energy or bring positive energy level greater than scale of 200, I recommend you to read the book: “The Magic“ By-Rhonda Byrne, practice the suggestions which are suggested in the book, that will help you to gain the higher energy levels.

We all need to learn and expand our love, beyond one person or one thing, like children. Loving everything and everyone kills all your desires/boredom and makes your life more beautiful than ever. Don't love only sun raise or sun sets, try loving sun in whole day. Similarly love everything you eat, smell, touch, and see. Try not to differentiate as this is good, that is bad. All the differentiation come from stored memories, mind, and belief system. If you start seeing things with no mind, you have less possibilities to hate many things in this world.

When you love the entire universe, tell me what can disturb you. Nothing can disturb the person, who is in love with everything and everyone and who likes and accepts universe’s actions and screenplays.

In love, biggest hurts looks very small, in hate or lack of love smallest hurt look big.

All boredom, all disinterest and all hate is causing just because; lack of love, if you are in love time passes in such a way; days, months, years, passes like a seconds. Children don’t get boredom only adults, because; adult are suffering from lack of love and lack of curiosity, that is the main reason they experience boredom and disinterest.

When you go to the restaurant to eat a food you love, you don’t mind to wait. When you are standing in a queue for movie ticket to watch your favorite stars movie, when you are waiting for a person you love, you are OK to wait for minutes or hours based on your love and its deepness/involvement. Similarly when you are driving in a road or using stairs if someone is troubling your way or waiting for a person you don’t like, in these situations; you don’t like delay of few seconds or waiting.

How to bring that back love:

• Stop doing things you think as important and serious, relax and stay calm. Stop all comparisons which make you feel jealous, angry or anxiety.
• Just start focusing on smallest happening in your surroundings; cloud movements, trees, birds, and insects, tap water flow, and so on. Watch closely and see there is no tension in them. They all are just cool, calm and normal.
• Stop criticizing, instead of that, understand the situation by getting into their shoes.
• Understand and accept, in this world all are unique in nature. Nothing is made for you, only machines can be possibly be made for someone or something, not the human beings.
• Realize that no one ever escaped from problems; Sri Rama, Sri Krishna, Buddha, Jesus, Mohammad, and so on. All must undergo the situations of life.
• Like day and night, good and bad comes and goes in life, so you must accept both.
• Try seeing beauty in everything you see, develop curiosity, and develop interest in nature and its happenings.
• See how wonderful this universe functions: with same sand, same water and  same climate, each plant is capable to produce different things; groundnut contains oil in seeds, sugar cane produces sugar, jasmine produces fragrance, flower plants produces different colour flowers, cotton plants produces cotton, and so on. Using same sand and water, if you try; you can’t produce/include - oil, sugar, fragrance, colour, cotton and so on. But nature has capacity to bring wonders.
• Spend time with nature, play with kids, sand and water
• Stop thinking about Money, Power and Position they kill all your love and bring restlessness in to your life.
• Spend time with parents, friends and relatives. Visit some new places.
• Help strangers, Love someone with no reason, and try loving the person you hate.

Love has capacity to increase your will power, being in bliss and love gives you stronger will power. If all things are going against your will and nothing is happening in your way is a sign that you are suffering from lack of love and happiness.

Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)

• Kannada Blogger

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Author Disclaimer:

I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being.  

See yourself in a dead body!

See yourself in a dead body!

Kill your ego, kill your identity, and kill your all false Prestige, Power, Position and Perceptions. You don't know when you leave, why you leave and how you leave. If that day comes no doctor can save you, No medicine can protect you, and No Insurances can help you.

Don’t worry about your relationships, friends, parents, children, they will be alright! They will take care of themselves, they all are independent and self-sufficient. It’s a false assumption that they all are dependent on you.

Look at your neighbours, relatives, and surrounding families, many of them are losing their family members/relative, after 15 days to 1 month all things comes to normal, they started living their life as usual and  as normal as possible. It’s all your assumption that you are the need. But fact is nothing really matters.

Stop living busy life, start living meaningful life.

You come with no identity, leave with no identity. In between you struggle a lot to create your identity, unfortunately nothing stays on this Earth, one day everything washes away. Biggest mountains just lose their existence by one small earth quake or land sliding. What about your creation, it’s a dust on the earth, one small air blow will wash you away.

Life is a gift, Death is also a gift. Be ready to celebrate both. When you are ready to celebrate your death, what else can fear you, what else can shake you? You are immortal, every costume has expiry date, and you leave that and get into the other one.

Verses of Bhagavad Gita:

Vaasaamsi jeernaani yathaa vihaaya
Navaani grihnaati naro’paraani
Tathaa shareeraani vihaaya jeernaani
Anyaani samyaati navaani dehee

Just as a man giving up worn-out clothes and puts on new ones, in the same way the embodied Self (Soul) casts off worn-out bodies and verily accepts new bodies.

nainaṃ chindanti śastrāṇi nainaṃ dahati pāvakaḥ |
na cainaṃ kledayantyāpo na śoṣayati mārutaḥ 

The soul can never be cut to pieces by any weapon, nor burned by fire, nor moistened by water, nor withered by the wind

jatasya hi dhruvo mrtyur
dhruvam janma mrtasya ca
tasmad apariharye 'rthe
na tvam socitum arhasi

For one who has taken his birth, death is certain; and for one who is dead, birth is certain. Therefore, in the unavoidable discharge of your duty, you should not lament.

Never stick to any costume, that is just a temporary, soul is permanent that has no identity, it has no beginning and no end.

Your life here is like an electric fan, it runs only with its power and has expiry date. Power in invisible, it has no identity, it has no beginning and no end. If one fan dies, it will supply same electric current to other fan. This body is temporary and like a fan and soul is permanent like an electric current.

Anything you do it has its expiry date. So there is one thing that stays longer than materials. Buddha, Jesus, Sai Baba, and many others found and preached that, that is Love and kindness. It has great power and that stays longer than the materials. To love someone and everyone you need a great courage, you should leave all your identity to express unconditional love and kindness to others.

Just assume your EGO is dead. See the world; it looks beautiful, tremendously wonderful, you have nothing to complain, nothing to criticize and nothing to finger point.

Once Ramanuja Acharya walking in the forest, he looked few Samadhi (The grave) and he stood there and prayed. All his disciples followed his guru and prayed. When all of them reached their Ashram, disciples asked Master. Why you prayed to those Samadhi, are those that important or special? Master replied as; we all need to learn from Samadhi when we were passing by, some kids where throwing stones at the Samadhi, some were offered flowers to them. They haven't reacted for both flowers and stone. Similarly we try to reach the Samadhi state, we should attain Nirvana State, and we express no reaction for pricings and scolding.

Verses of Bhagavad Gita:

duḥkheṣhv-anudvigna-manāḥ sukheṣhu vigata-spṛihaḥ

vīta-rāga-bhaya-krodhaḥ sthita-dhīr munir uchyate

One whose mind remains undisturbed amidst misery, who does not crave for pleasure, and who is free from attachment, fear, and anger, is called a sage of steady wisdom.

Sthita prajña is a state of ego less. It's very important that one to reach the Samadhi state. That gives you greater joy and Great life.

Observe infants, they are the examples of state of Samadhi, you laugh or cry they just watch you. No comparison, no identification. They just treat all with the same love and respect. No discrimination, no ego, no attachment. For infants nothing look ugly they see beauty in everything.

Seeing beauty in everything is a state of no mind.

Unfortunately for most of the people, this beautiful world looks ugly and not interested in anything. Because they are not living in this world. They have built their own mind cage and they are living in that cage.      

  

80% of the people are suffering in this world are self-suffers, no one is physically harming them, by recalling negative thoughts, situations, and comparisons. Simply they are suffering. Situations happens only once, these people are calling them repeatedly every day and suffer.

It's difficult to delete mind. Because you are living in it. So you die before you really die. Mind also dies along with you. Later your life is like a Jesus, Budha, Mohammad, Mahaveer, Kabir, and so on.

You have all the capacity to become extraordinary, to achieve something in the physical world, your sense organs are required, based on its ability you achieve them. For material achievements not all are equally qualified, whereas to achieve in spirituality, all are equally qualified. Because it's nothing to do with your physical abilities and external sense organs. It's an inward journey. Close your external connection, connect to the internal world. It's an amazing journey.

Some of you are looking to start spiritual journey, please search YouTube/Google for videos or books of: Mooji, Shivani BK, Eckhart Tolle, Sadhguru, Krishnamurti Jiddu, Sathya Sai Baba, Ramana Maharshi, Paramahansa Yogananda, Sri Aurobindo, Neem Karoli Baba, and Osho, Watch at least ten videos of each person or read one or two books about their teachings. Later chose one or two people; whom you are in sync with, watch more videos of their teachings or read more books of their teachings and with the regular practice of meditation. The day will come, when you have no questions in life. Every question of yours will be destroyed by your wisdom, before it appear in your mind/mouth, which is the right time to start moving inward... Happy Spiritual Journey.

Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)

• Kannada Blogger

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Author Disclaimer:

I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. 

Anger Management

Anger Management

 Anger is a root cause for many health issues, Anger is a root cause for many relationship issues, and Anger is a root for many social and financial issues. Anger make human as an animal.

There is a saying: When you get angry take a deep breath and count 1 to 10. Reason; when you are angry, any decision you take at that moment may not be a right decision, because you are not using your intelligence before you respond.

Let’s see with few examples, how anger affects life:

Story of Stupid Father:

Father brought new Blue Audi car, he parked in garage at home. His 4 year old son looked at it and he carved his father name using keys sharp edge. Suddenly his father noticed that entire car got big scratches, he took some wood and beat him heavily. After few minutes, he realized that it’s a great damage he did on his son, because his son’s both the hands got broken by his evil act. He looked both car and his son, he realized that he can buy two new Audi cars, but he can’t give back his son’s hands. Later he gave insight into his son’s act on the car? He had written – Father’s Name and I LOVE YOU DAD .

Story of Wise Father:

Son came and asked, dad now a days I’m getting angry very frequently, tell me how to overcome? Father suggested him, any time you feel angry you go to the tree which is opposite to our house, take 5 nails and hit. Do this act, every time your feel angry. His son followed his dad’s instructions, started doing it as and when he was angry. Slowly his frequency of anger reduced and he started getting into no angry state.

Son asked his father, now days I’m not feeling angry and some time I feel joy and happy. Father suggested, any time you feel joy or happy, go the tree you nailed and remove 5 nails (which were nailed earlier) from the tree. Do this act every time you feel happy or joy? Son started following his father’s instruction. After few days he removed all the nails form the tree. He returned back to his father and asked. I have removed all of them, what next?

His father took him to the tree and shown the wounds and damage that happened to the tree when he nailed. After removing nails also, he can see big wounds and damage on the trunk of the tree. Father explained to his son. Anger is something similar to this, if you scold or criticize or conduct bad actions when you are angry, it will not be possible to erase those wound of mind or body which are created by your actions. You can do whatever the favour or give whatever the material you want, those bad memories or acts will stay forever.

It explains that, when you are angry do nothing, take no decision, and take a break.

How anger affects your health:

Any negative feeling disturbs you, especially; Anger, Jealous, enmity, and revenge are the worst negative feelings these are the root cause for many health issues.

Let me explain using examples: A Russian psychiatrist Pavlov conducted an experiment on the dog with the meat (Other Ref source: Click). He predicted the dogs would salivate in response to the food placed in front of them, but he noticed that his dogs would begin to salivate whenever they heard the footsteps of his assistant who was bringing them the food.

After few days he just changed the pattern of serving, before he bring a meat bowl, he asked to ring a bell, after few minutes he started serving meat bowl. After few days dog realized the pattern, the moment he bells, dog started salivation.

With this he realized that material is nothing to do with our body, thought can trigger physiological and hormonal changes in the body.

So, when you have good feelings you produce some chemical in the body that supplies to, all the body organs and your feel joy and happy. Similarly whey you have negative feeling, your body produces some chemicals that is equivalent to poison, it will impact every organ in the body and that introduces; down, dullness, sickness, and diseases in the body.

Anger, Jealous, enmity and revenge feeling are like poison tablets (capsules) you are consuming and thinking that other person will die. This will never happen, person who consumes capsules will die, not the person you think of…

Today’s most of the health issue are arising due to Anger and Fear. (Ref: Why You Get Disease)

What if someone create anger in you?

Here is what best advice given by father to the son. Before he died, he called his son and told him. You may not be possible to understand what I’m saying now, but I want to you to remember these words and use them when you are matured enough to understand what those words means to you. And don’t forget, what I’m teaching right now.

Father guides his son, if someone create anger in you? Tell the person you will come after 24 hours to answer him. And wait for 24 hours, after 24 hours whatever comes to you, go and do.

(Source: Osho: if somebody creates anger in you)

Sending Email/Message when you are angry?  

It’s really a good idea to follow the method, what our great leader Abraham Lincoln followed.

He was about to criticize General Meade for his actions and wrote a letter for the same, fortunately it was not sent to him, here is that letter, It was found among other unsent angry letters after Lincoln’s death. 

My Dear General, 

I do not believe you appreciate the magnitude of the misfortune involved in Lee's escape. He was within our easy grasp, and to have closed upon him would, in connection with our other late success, have ended the war. As it is, the war will be prolonged indefinitely. If you could not safely attack Lee last Monday, how can you possibly do so south of the river, when you take with you very few -- no more than two-thirds of the force you then had in hand? It would be unreasonable to expect and I do not expect that you can now affect much. Your golden opportunity is gone, and I am distressed immeasurably because of it. 

-Abraham Lincoln 

Any time he feels to criticize someone, Lincoln used to write a letters and those were never sent to the recipients. He was writing reading self and keeping with him only, he never sent those letters to any.

Still you want to write an email or express criticism or anger? Follow the below steps:

Step 1: Write how angry you are at this person.

Say exactly what’s on your mind. 

Step 2: Add this sentence to the bottom of the email

You know what, it’s no problem. If I were in your shoes, I probably would have made the same mistake. It was my fault for not thoroughly explaining the directions.

You’re an invaluable asset not only to our business [or my life], but to the entire comradery of the team. It’s a petty mistake, one I hope won’t happen again, yet I understand. Next time, I’ll be clearer on the directions. My apologies. Thanks again for everything you do.

Step 3: Send the email to yourself, read it 30 minutes later.

Check, how does it feel to receive that?

(Source: Abraham Lincoln's Unconventional Technique For Handling Stressful Conflicts)

Some situations demands anger, how to deal with it?

If situations demand your anger, try this way; show your anger the way you are supposed to show and make that expression of anger not affecting your internal organs of the body and bodily hormones.

Because some professions are not possible to run without showing an anger. Use above techniques to run the business as usual. And make sure that anger should be purely an acting (external) and internally you should be in absolute peace. Like one person playing a villain role and behaves as a wild like a rude animal, but in his real life, he is a very innocent, cool and calm person.

Understand the difference in acting and being, when situations demands your anger. Just act don't react.

Anger is disease. Best methods to come out of Anger is; start practicing meditation. Meditation is a medicine for Anger!

Refer below link for more help on Anger:
How to Control Anger - Sadhguru
How to deal with Anger, 3 Tips in less than 60 seconds
ANGER harms ME not THEM: BK Shivani

Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)

• Kannada Blogger

Kereya neeranu Kerege chelli

Author Disclaimer:

I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. 

More you love More you Suffer

More you love More you Suffer

It's universal fact like everyone knows poison kill. There is a quote on love: "Love is a sweet poison".

Yes, everyone knows that love gives misery. Again, they assume my love is pure and it wouldn't.

Some people breakup with one person and try with others. By assuming other person's love brings eternal happiness. Changing lover is just changing brand in poison bottle. Content or components are same, maybe it comes with different fragrance.

This is called as materialistic love. If you are attached to any materials, more you attached, more you suffer.

Material are in two classes:

1. Your Parents, your kids, your relatives, your lover, your friends, your neighborhood, and so on.
2. Your property, your position, your car, your mobile, your favorite food and drinks, your favorite places and so on.

Let me explain one by one, more you attached to your parents or kids, more they make you suffer. More you attached to your relatives, more they make you suffer in later days.

If you take lover, if you love more, definitely you suffer more, deeper you go, greater you suffer. Similarly, it applies to all the classes of people.

Same way other class of love also gives you all the suffering, example assume you are attached to your mobile phone, you believe that is your luckiest mobile, you believe that is your strength. The moment you lost that mobile phone, your suffering starts. Similarly, for the properties. People building or buying their love home by investing decades of their earnings, because of natural disasters or some legal issues, if they lose, they reach the heights in suffering, for some people it's even hard to recover from suffering.

Love is very dangerous thing, if you are interested in materialistic love. The deeper you love, greater you suffer.

You may question; is love is so bad? It's not bad, but it will be (excess of anything is poison). Example: take the food you eat, it supplies energy to your body, you become healthy and happy. So, it considered as food is good for health. Same good food if you eat more than you need, it becomes bad.

People are boozing/drinking alcohol by thinking to get some extra happiness. Next day they're suffer with hangover. More you drink, more hangover pain you get and health issue in later days.

Similarly, every material love, makes you cry, more you enjoy, more you suffer in later days. This is universal rules. Everyone must undergo with no exceptions.

Even if you are mad at saving any birds/animals/mankind or any such things, this is another kind of stupidity. To know why? Please watch this video: OSHO: I Am Not Interested in Saving Anybody

Question is whom do I love? If you invest your love on non-material things, that is eternal, it gives no misery.

That's the love Jesus Christ thought, unfortunately this is misguided and people creating more suffering world with material love.

What is non-material love?

For this you must have bigger heart, if you love one person, that is selfishness. If you love the entire world the way you love yourself, it is unselfish love. Selfless love is non-material love.

If you treat every property like your own property, world will be more beautiful and more lovable.

Human growth is measured by their non-material love, it's moving from selfishness to selflessness. Jesus, Buddha, Swami Vivekananda, Gandhi has great love (its beyond materials), that is why they are still alive.

If you are looking for happiness, joy, celebration, expand your love, put no boundaries to it. Love with any boundary brings you a misery.

Swami Vivekananda Quotes on Love and expansion:

Expansion is life, contraction is death. Love your enemy, love the entire world, fill the world with your love, unassuming expression is a symbol of the footwork.

Love someone personally is an imprisonment. If you love everyone equally then all the desires will fall off.

Attachment gives misery, detachment gives happiness, more you attached more you suffer.

Being detached is not ignoring everything. Learn from Lotus: As a lotus flower is born in water, grows in water and rises out of water to stand above it unsoiled.

Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)

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I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being.