Adults: don’t follow your father and mother and don't forget to love them

Adults: don’t follow your father and mother and don't forget to love them

Note: This particular blog recommend for adults or majors based on country and its age set by. Others can keep this as info, you can try to implement once eligible and interested.

Before I start my motivational session in one of the orphan’s hostel, first words I told them as, you are lucky that you don't have father and mother to destroy your dreams and interests, you have no fencing for your dreams. 

No matter what I say, what others say, go with your heart or soul sayings, be sometime deaf (TINY FROG STORY), don't listen, be courageous, be optimistic, be a master. Never be slave to any.

Thousands of year’s human beings suffering and screaming in life by following their father and mother, elder’s advices.

There is a proverb in Kannada- Appa Hakida Aalada Marakke Nenu Hakkobeda it means don't commit suicide for your father planted banyan tree.

Look at the history of all successful people in the world, they have not followed the interests or opinions or desires of their parent or elders. That is the only reason they are what they are today. If they followed they would be ended up with clerical job. I'm not saying that clerical job is bad, I'm saying they will be missed to reach the heights.

Take an example of Michael DELL if he just followed the interests of their parents, today we have missed more than 138,000 employees and $61 billion revenue company DELL Technologies. If he followed parent’s interests many would not experience great computers and software he delivering to the world today and many other services. Ref: DELL Companies Happy 33rd Birthday  

Look at your father and mother, they too violated many teaching of their parents and elders, that’s why they are what they are today. Or else all should be living in forest, caves, no cloths, eating raw animal and vegetables, there is no question of civilization.

Why we are advanced today, that is because we violated many Parenting, Elderly, Guru, and Teachers guide lines, those are proceeded in the name of fear.

Most pathetic thing in this society is, every parent expects behavior and things from their kids as per their expectation, and even their kids are @ age 18, 30, 60, so on. They themselves violated many, but they expect on their kids, this is going on from the centuries.

Every individual adult is independent in taking decision and shaping their future as they want, because of the fear and negativity of the parents, many adults suffering, not reaching the places where they wanted to reach.

Many Orthodox parents, destroying their kid’s future in the names of rituals, actions, so on. If you guide rituals by not knowing the scientific reason behind it, it simply you are poisoning them, you can call Orthodox as OrthoToxic in that sense.

It's like monkeys saying...(or Click)

Love your parents, don't follow them, Many great leaders violated their parents, masters, gurus guidance, that's why they are what they are today..

Example:

1. Buddha gone against his parents wish.
2. Madhvacharya, he disproved his guru’s teachings. So we have 2 concepts, Dual and Non-dual with great examples. (Advaita and Dvaita)
3. Annamayya (Annamacharya) he gone against parents interest/wish.

Have great love on everyone, that includes your parents too, you are what you are today, that is because of everything and everyone that is surrounded by you. Of course parent’s takes major role on you, it doesn't mean that, they are the major role for your failure or destruction of future dreams too.

It doesn't matter: parents or teachers or gurus, elder or anyone, reject all fearful teachings of anything or anybody, be courageous, have great love, kindness, and respect on everyone, but follow your heart.

Remember Age, Education, Experience are just qualifications, not constraints. Anyone can reach any height at any point of time. Never underestimate or downgrade anyone with the external identities. If having knowledge or pursuing course is all, library is more qualified to the position than the man. Or a man who has 100+ degrees qualified for all positions in the world. (Meet the 50-year-old Chennai professor who holds 145 academic degrees)

It’s all how you manipulate the knowledge it matters, having JAVA certification wouldn’t help you to fix a single issue in the application, what is use of having it?!

Not following heart or soul is called in Sanskrit as: Athma Dhrooha it means cheating your Soul. Don't do that.

There are two sayings of Swami Vivekananda to energize you...

Make your own future. “Let the dead past bury its dead.” The infinite future is before you, and you must always remember that each word, thought, and deed lays up a store for you, and that as the bad thoughts and bad works are ready to spring upon you like tigers, so also there is the inspiring hope that the good thoughts and good deeds are ready with the power of a hundred thousand angels to defend you always and for ever.

Stand up and fight! Not one step back, that is the idea. Fight it out, whatever comes. Let the stars move from the spheres! Let the whole world stand against you us! Death means only changing the garment. What of it? Thus right! You gain noting by becoming cowards. Taking a step backward, you do not avoid any misfortune. You have cried all the gods in the world. Has misery ceased? … the gods come to help you when you have succeeded. So what is the use? Die game. You are infinite, deathless, birthless. Because you are infinite spirit, it does not befit you to be a slave. Arise! Awake! Stand up and fight!

Cowards say and create fear in you, don't do that, don't do this, so on. It's their capacity. Courageous people never guide or make others fear, they guide only Courage.

Believe in yourself, you have great power in you, as Vivekananda said: All power is within you, you can do anything and everything. Believe in that.

Your real enemies are your loved ones: There is a quote in Hindi: Dushman Kahan Hai, bagal mei hai it means; Where is your enemy? He is just next to you.

This is true everywhere, your goals have been stopped, your ideas have been destroyed, and your dreams have been dissolved/demotivated by your own loved ones or people close to you.

Reason; they are not doing all this with enmity or jealous, they are doing this because of love, because of fear, because of liking, because fear of suffering (they don’t want to see you are suffering from failures, so they avoid you to attempt them)

Real love never allow fear to enter, their love is not so real, that love damaged with the thinking of future, security, and safety, so on…lack of confidence, trust and belief in you. Be Courageous, Guide them the courage and do something great.

“Fear is death, fear is sin, fear is hell, fear is unrighteousness, and fear is wrong life. All the negative thoughts and ideas that are in the world have proceeded from this evil spirit of fear.” — Swami Vivekananda.

Author: GCV (Vishnuvardhana GC)

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I’m not a robot to be constant, consistent and complete, I’m a normal human and my blog will be contradictory like director give multiple movies have different opinions on the same subject or different subjects. I flow like a river, I really don’t look for sand, rock, trees, house, and so on. Intention is helping as many as possible before reaching the ocean. I strongly recommend to consult expert’s advice to follow and adopt any methods. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being.